Letting your manager into your life a little bit is important, because when there are stressful things happening (a death in the family, a new child, a breakup, housing woes), it will be much easier to ask your manager for time off or tell him what you need if he has context on you as a person.— The Manager's Path: A Guide for Tech Leaders Navigating Growth and Change
Work has always been draining for me, even when I really enjoyed my work. I think that it comes from the fact that I hold part of myself back when I sit down at my office chair. The person I am at work is not my full self.
I’ve always thought there should be a wall between my work life and personal life. Specifically that my personal life shouldn’t bleed into my work life. Why do my colleagues need to know about my life?
The passage above from The Manager’s Path: A Guide for Tech Leaders Navigating Growth and Change struck me like a bolt of lightning and instantly changed my mindset. It’s one of those sentences which makes me realize I had an invisible script about work and it’s been leading me in the wrong direction.
It’s actually helpful to share some of your personal life with your manager and colleagues because, if your personal life affects work, it’ll be easier to tell them. They won’t be surprised and caught off guard. It also let’s me lower the wall between my personal and professional life.
I’m going to start following the advice - letting my manager into my life a a little more. I’m hopeful that by bringing more of myself to work, my energy to do great work is increased as well.
Lately, I’ve been reading books and articles about engineering management and this is the first one which has started off talking about humans instead of data. Even though I’m only a few chapters in, I can already highly recommended it.
I’ll let Camille Fournier end with another truth about work:
Being an introvert is not an excuse for making no effort to treat people like real human beings, however. The bedrock of strong teams is human connection, which leads to trust.— The Manager's Path: A Guide for Tech Leaders Navigating Growth and Change